I love sunglasses

Im loning for the summer or going to a sunny country … just to get to wear a pair of sunglasses .lol

Me this spring/summer 😀

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frågor

längd?  168 cm
Frisyr? Uppsatt
ögonfärg?  Bruna .. what else
skostorlek? 37
humör?  Arg .. haft en jobbig dag. lol
vänster eller högerhänt? Högerhänt
har du nånsin varit kär? Ja
tror du på kärlek? JA!! … Im a lover not a hater 🙂
har du gjort något inom kärleken som du verkligen ångrar? Nej
har du någonsin fått ditt hjärta krossat? Hmms .. nej tror inte det
har du någon gång krossat någon annans hjärta? Nej
har du nånsin älskat någon utan att tala om de för honom? Ja.,,
är du rädd för att starta ett förhållande med någon? Nää
tror du på kärlek vid första ögonkastet?  Nej
kärlek eller rik?  Hmm svår fråga .. varför kan man ej få båda .lol. Tar KÄRLEKEN då
dag eller natt? Dag
one night stand eller förhållande? Förhållande (äktenskap) .. One night stand?? Istaqfrullah.. haraam
tv eller internet? Internet
färgfoto eller svartvita? Färg såklart
telefonkontakt eller face to face? Face to face 
har du nånsin viljat ta livet av dig? Nej ..
har du nånsin gjort något du ångrar? Ja .. många gånger 😦
har du nånsin önskat att någon ska göra sig riktigt illa? Nej .. inte riktigt illa :p
har du nånsin tyckt att världen suger? Jaaa .. tycker så varje dag..
har du någonsin blivit jagad av polisen? Neej,, hoppas jag aldrig blir det heller
sover du helst själv eller med någon? Beror på.
skulle du vilja vara längre? Ja ..  5 cm till skulle inte vara fel
skulle du vilja kyssas nu? Neej
kan du röra på öronen? Med hjälp av händerna .LOL
kan du slicka dig på näsan? Neej
kan du kolla i kors med ögonen? Neej
kan dina föräldrar lita på dig? Ja
kan du låta bli att prata på 4 timmar? Gör det varje natt då jag sover .
kan du tänka att pierca dig i naveln?  Nej
har du haft sex med någon som är tre år äldre? Neej
har du haft ett förhållande med någon som är tre år äldre?  Neej
har du blivit påkommen när du har haft sex? Nej
har du ljugit på någon fråga än då? Nej ….
vem är den bästa artisten/gruppen? Michael Jackson
vem pratade du senast i telefon med? Miss K
vem är snällast i världen? Min mamma
vem vill du prata med nu? Ingen faktisk
vem sov du senast med? I dont remember . länge sen
vem vet allt om dig?  Ingen  !! Only me 🙂

Tears Of Gaza !!

1 hour and 20 minutes long – the full documentary !!

Very heartbreaking! I remember when the bombardment of Gaza started ..it was december 2008 .. I had just moved back home to my mom after studying in another city  !! I woke up one morning and hearing my mom crying, she just turned on Al-Jazeera (arabic news channel) so I went to the living room and saw the awful images of dead people lying on the ground !! Many burnt and shattered bodies ! Total destruction of a whole community! Made me sick to my stomach …and wondering whats wrong with the world .. why arent UN help these innocent people ?? Well there isnt any justice in the world right now .. maybe there will justice in the future when humans learn how to respect one and other !!

Watch the whole film !! And remember the people of Gaza ♥  and not only them but also think of all the suffering chilren out there who are exposed to war !!

Ten ways to avoid marrying the wrong person

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1) Do Not Marry Potential:  Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change.  This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential.  There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.  These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry:  While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love.  The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:

  • Humility: The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort.  They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.
  • Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money?  How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?
  • Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character.  You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.
  • Happiness: A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have.  They very rarely complain.

3) Do Not Neglect The  Emotional Needs of Your Partner:  Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved.  The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.  To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs:  Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.  To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs:  Respect, Reassurance, & Relief.  It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive.  When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his sexual desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

4) Avoid Opposing Life Plans:  In marriage you can either grow together or grow apart. Sharing a common purpose in life will increase the chance that you will grow together.

  • You must know what the person is into. In other words, what are they ultimately passionate about?  Then ask yourself, “Do I respect this passion?” “Do I respect what they are into?”
  • The more specifically you define yourself, i.e., your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle, the better chance you have of finding your life partner, your soul mate, the one you are most compatible with.
  • Remember, before you decide who to take along on a trip, you should first figure out your destination.

5) Avoid Pre-Marital Sexual/Physical Activity:

  • Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why God has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman.
  • Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them.
  • Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or sexual commitment.

6) Avoid Lack of Emotional Connection:  There are four questions that you must answer YES to:

  • Do I respect and admire this person?  What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?
  • Do I trust this person?  Can I rely on them?  Do I trust their judgment?  Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?
  • Do I feel Safe?  Do I feel emotionally safe with this person?  Can I be vulnerable?  Can I be myself?  Can I be open?  Can I express myself?
  • Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?

If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married.  If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!

7) Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety: Choosing someone you don’t feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage.  Feeling emotionally safe is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage.  When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions.  Learn how to identify whether you are in an abusive relationship.  If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you are with someone and you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells, then it’s very likely you are in an abusive relationship.  Look for the following things:

  • Controlling behavior: This includes controlling the way you act, the way you think, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair/hijab and the way you spend your time.  Know the difference between suggestions and demands.  Demands are an expression of control and if the demands are implied, than you must do it or there will be consequences. All of these are clear indications of abusive personalities.
  • Anger issues: This is someone who raises their voice on a regular basis, who is angry, gets angry at you, uses anger against you, uses put downs, and curses at you, etc.  You don’t have to put up with this type of treatment.  Many people who tolerate this behavior usually come from abusive backgrounds.  If this is the case with you or someone you know, get help right away.  Deal with those issues before getting married or before even thinking about getting married.

8 ) Beware of Lack of Openness In Your Partner:  Many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the onset.  Ask yourself, “What do I need to know to be absolutely certain I want to marry this person?” “What bothers me about this person or the relationship?”  It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you, things that concern you, and things you are afraid to bring up for discussion. Then you must have an honest discussion about them. This is a great way to test the strength of your relationship. Bringing up issues when there’s conflict is a great opportunity to really evaluate how well you communicate, negotiate, and work together as a team.  When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team.  Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds.  How do they handle it?  Are they defensive?  Do they attack?  Do they withdraw?  Do they get annoyed?  Do they blame you?  Do they ignore it?  Do they hide or rationalize it?  Don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it!

9) Beware of Avoiding Personal Responsibility: It’s very important to remember no one else is responsible for your happiness. Many people make the mistake of thinking someone else will fulfill them and make their life better and that’s their reason for getting married.  People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person, they will continue to be miserable when they are married.  If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage.  Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.

10) Watch Out For Lack of Emotional Health and Availability In Your Potential Partner:  Many people choose partners that are not emotionally healthy or available. One huge problem is when a partner is unable to balance the emotional ties to family members, the marriage ends up having 3 (or more) people in it rather than two. An example of this would be if a man is overly dependent on his mother and brings that relationship into the marriage; this is no doubt a recipe for disaster.  Also important to consider are the following:

  • Avoid people who are emotionally empty inside.  These include people who don’t like themselves because they lack the ability to be emotionally available. They are always preoccupied with their deficiencies, insecurities, and negative thoughts.  They are in a perpetual fight with depression, never feel good, are isolated, are critical and judgmental; tend to not have any close friends, and often distrust people or are afraid of them.  Another clear indication about them is they always feel their needs are not getting met; they have a sense of entitlement and feel angry when they feel people should take care of them and they don’t.  They feel burdened by other people’s needs and feel resentment towards them.  These people can not be emotionally available to build healthy relationships.
  • Addictions can also limit the level of availability of the partner to build a strong emotional relationship.  Never marry an addict.  Addictions are not limited to drugs and alcohol.  They can be about addictions and dependency on work, internet, hobbies, sports, shopping, money, power, status, materialism, etc.  When someone has an addiction, they will not and can not be emotionally available to develop an intimate relationship with you!

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http://mentalhealth4muslims.com/2010/03/31/10-ways-to-marry-the-wrong-person/